December 2, 2009

this web is my web

Posted in blogging, DIYDesign, internets, nostalgia, technology, work, writing at 11:37 pm by Marise Phillips

So I got a new job today. More precisely, I got to go permanent after contracting for 14 months at a place where time has flown by in the best possible way. In the official announcement this afternoon, my new manager mentioned that I came to them with 15 years of experience working on the web. All very surreal as I mused on a) how long 15 years is and b) what a different direction my career — my whole life — would have taken, had I not been ‘desperate’ enough to turn to the Internet as a source of friends in a new town.

Looking back on my digital life, it occurred to me tonight that some of the first things I ever posted online were poems. Poems of lust and loss that poured out of me as fast as I could post them, not things I’d already written longhand or kept stored on floppy disk. (Because of course that was your average “high-tech” person’s backup solution in 1994. Tee hee.) But yeah, back to the poems. That unexpected, easy willingness to expose myself online rather surprised me.

Then again, when you consider the explosion of websites and apps such as…

  • my yahoo
  • blogger
  • myspace
  • flickr
  • etsy
  • blurb
  • twitter

…one of the Internet’s most enduring qualities is its revolutionary broadening of the means, and the potential reach, of self-expression. Of artistry. Of feeling. You know, those things we used to keep locked up inside, while making our living doing the more mundane things the world was willing to pay us for. And someday, maybe if we were really lucky, and tried really hard, we’d ‘get published’ and, at long last, achieve immortality. But now? Au contraire! I literally spend a part of every day sharing something about myself or taking a headlong dive into someone else’s life. And it all happens online, of course.

See, the corner of the web I like best is the one where we all have a voice (and call ourselves ‘writers’, ‘photographers’, ‘artists’, ‘comedians’ or ‘collectors’) as we show off to — and riff off of — one another. It’s funny to think that the celebrities I follow are no longer the ones splashed on billboards and magazines; these days, they’re the ones who craft the funniest/most poignant blog posts, crochet the twee-est baby quilts, take endless photos of men with impossibly ornate mustaches, and so on… *They* are the ‘cool kids’ now πŸ™‚

Just this morning, however, I felt an uncomfortable mixture of disdain and desire creep into the shower with me, as I reflected on the new ‘celebrities’ I follow who sell ad space and hold giveaway contests on their blogs. Such a strange thing to do, I thought. Shouldn’t that be considered kind of… I don’t know… uncouth? Like having a corporate sponsor for your wedding? (“And now it’s time the happy couple’s first dance! Brought to you by Kitchy-Brand pressure cookers!”) But as the day progressed and I continued to chew on it, I had to retract my opinion as disingenuous. Making money off ads on your personal website? And how is that different than writing advertising copy for a living? Because you can hide behind the anonymity of the latter? So: better just to be out in the open about it?

Hmph. Sometimes I hate ambiguity πŸ™‚ They say that women are unhappier than ever these days. They say it may be because we just *care* more. Enough to think twice (or three times or ten) about whether something we thought or did or said was the right thing. It’s all very very complicated, but a big chunk of what gets churned out online represents the space in which we’re hashing these things out, together.

Anyway, this has been my web. (Brought to you by our sponsor, Al Gore πŸ˜‰ It’s messy and it’s weird and it can be ugly at times but, on the whole, it’s still beautiful.

April 3, 2007

last day in amsterdam

Posted in internets, lovey, restaurant review, travel at 12:35 am by Marise Phillips

last day of vacation…Β and it’s grey and cold after 6 straight days of lovely sun. oh well!

we rented bikes and are thoroughly enjoying our increased range of travel around this thoroughly lovely city. today, we’d planned to go to the botanical gardens and the zoo, but not sure if that’s so practical now, with rain so likely.

last night, we went to a great-looking place in the Jordaan called “restaurant tante agaath” – but the service was deplorable. a party of four blowhards (two tiresome Cockney businessmen and their dull Dutch hosts) sat right next to us, getting louder and louder with each drink and cigarette.

even worse, our entrees took literally an hour to arrive (and we hadn’t ordered appetizers in order to save room for dessert!) needless to say, we didn’t stick around for that, and just got some pastries at a stall closer to the center of town.

we ended the night at “rokerij” coffeshop, probably my favorite establishment of this entire trip so far. great interior design, dark and tribal, comfy wall benches, cool music.

piccies so far are up on flickr.

November 8, 2006

house geek house geek

Posted in home, internets, shopping at 11:57 pm by Marise Phillips

roly poly house geek! (emphasis on the roly poly)

check out my oh-so-obsessive kitchen appliance saga…

—–Original Message—–

Hello again Peter,

Looks like the oven may *just* fit. Fortunately, the space reserved for it is not wedged in between two cabinets/counters, but rather, there will be some free space on the left. However, the left edge of the oven would partially cover a light switch, so I’d need to get the switch moved eventually for it to work out long term.

Also, the depth of the oven may be a bit too much compared to the counter/cabinets immediately to the right of it, so I’m thinking that I (nerd that I am!) should maybe create a “dummy” cardboard box in the approximate shape and size of the oven and try it out in the space before I make a final decision whether to buy it.

Anyway, I understand that you may get other interested buyers in the meantime, but please keep me in mind — I hope to be able to mock up the cardboard box soon enough for your selling timeframe.


—–Original Message—–
On Nov 8, 2006, at 12:49 PM, RiseyP wrote:

Thanks, Peter!

I’m heading over to the house today at 2, and should let you know in a couple hours whether the oven will fit in our new kitchen.

Crossing fingers πŸ˜‰

—–Original Message—–

On Nov 8, 2006, at 12:34 PM, Peter wrote:

Thanks RiseyP. It is in great working order. We just recently
disconnected it as we are doing kitchen remodeling (it is out on on
deck, covered). There are about 8 steps to get it down the deck, then
level to the outside. We have two strong men to assist at this time.
Thanks you, Peter

—–Original Message—–
From: riseyp
Sent: Tuesday, November 07, 2006 10:11 PM
Subject: 50s O’Keefe

** Avoid: wiring money, cross-border deals, work-at-home
** Beware: cashier checks, money orders, escrow, shipping
** More Info:


I saw your vintage oven on craigslist and wanted to let you know that
I’m interested in learning more about it. From the photo, I assume
that it’s not currently hooked up. Can you tell me if there are there
any mechanical or cosmetic problems with it? Are you storing it at
street level or are there stairs to negotiate? Any idea how heavy it is?

Anyway, I just bought a house in Alameda which i will be taking
possession of in a couple weeks. Tomorrow, I will be there for an
inspection, and can measure the space in my new kitchen to make sure
this oven will fit.

So… would definitely like to chat more with you about it. Feel free
to email or call my cell: xxx-xxx-xxxx



Pictures of oven below:

i love my “girl”friend

Posted in home, internets, lovey, shopping, technology, toys at 8:10 pm by Marise Phillips

(s)he’s letting me get this fridge for us:

we found it on eBay available from a seller in Italy. i always assumed SMEG (shutup) was a British company, but nooo… somehow it’s Italian! How the hell did this horrid, cacophonous-looking word pass the otherwise oh-so-fabulous Italian vocabulary police??

well, at least the design MORE than makes up for it.

check out this confection:

October 28, 2006

so weird – but still: very very good

Posted in internets, weekend at 6:50 pm by Marise Phillips

September 25, 2006

two cool things about today

Posted in internets, knitting, shopping at 10:24 pm by Marise Phillips

1. my new necklace:

2. this video/song:

watch this

July 26, 2006

trippy spam

Posted in internets at 8:49 pm by Marise Phillips

Are you seriously telling me that? He typed the words MISERYS RETUR in the upper left-hand comer, the number I in the upper right.

Reported missing, thats all. But even if it turns out the way I think, neither of us will know the actual details until I get them written down, will we? It had fallen in some way that was keeping the locks tongue from retracting completely. Except in the newspaper photographs, he had never seen her in her nurses uniform.

Psychotics, rocked in the poison cradles of their own egos, want to do everyone handy a favor and take them along. A long yellow flame appeared.

He had burned her broken her back stuffed her tubes full of paper and still still still she was coming. This smell reminded him of the smell of the pig when they brought it out of the pit where it had cooked all day.

July 25, 2006

hee hee…

Posted in aging, internets, nostalgia at 5:23 pm by Marise Phillips

Today’s giggles:

  • crazy aunt purl, how i love thee!
  • sundry rocks my world (and her commenters rule, too!)
  • isolatr: why do i love smartasses so much? prolly because i’m NOT one, but always wanted to be.

And my real-world buddies:

  • k encounters a crazy drunk cutie
  • whinger scatted in public!!
  • mejane is a kinky romantic

in other news, my 20-year high school reunion was held this weekend. (fuck i’m old–OLD, I tell you!!)

and no. i didn’t go. the 10-year was enough to remind me why i disliked high school so much. the people i went with were IDIOTS. ok, ok, not all of them… but the overwhelming majority: mouth-breathing twits. people who called me a pinko commie for applying to Berkeley.

HA! i showed them! i ended up at UCSB, developed a drinking problem, and became a little sister at some fraternity i can’t even remember the name of! Wheeee!! (thank god, i laid off the sauce eventually, pulled myself together and graduated with honors. but i often wonder how different life would be had i taken Cal up on their acceptance letter…)

anyway, to be perfectly honest, i MIGHT have been tempted to go to the reunion, but only on two huuuugely-unlikely conditions:

  1. If I weighed maybe 35 pounds less
  2. If my love would agree to accompany me

So, rather than haul my bruised ass down south to some lame Disneyland-area hotel for a weekend of awkward conversations and stultifying smog, I chose a higher calling: to rant about people i spent three years with 20 years ago, from the lofty parapet of my online journal, read by millions of slavering faithful.

is slavering a word? i’m too lazy to look it up.

faithful? anyone? hello?


June 16, 2006

and now for something completely different…

Posted in internets at 10:15 am by Marise Phillips

Mentos + Diet Coke: Fountains of Glory


Watch the Video!

June 15, 2006

Advice Needed (again)

Posted in internets at 6:21 pm by Marise Phillips

We interrupt your previously scheduled programming (divorce stuff) to ask: "What the heck should I do about this?"

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